How My Marriage Works

Last month, we had lunch with two of our close friends. Both of them are pastors. One is my pastor back in Paris, and one is a pastor who once stayed at our appartement in Courbevoie. Both of them are people we had great respect, and we're trully blessed knowing them.

We ate donuts, drank coffee and throwed jokes, until one of them shared a topic about marriage. This pastor shared how he and his wife have so much differences which made them quarrelled a lot. The other pastor also admitted that he and his wife often ended up in strong dispute which hurt both of them deeply.

Then finnaly they asked us,"How about you guys, do you quarrel a lot too?"

There was a long long pause. Me and hub, we're silenced. Didn't know what to say.

Of course we quarreled about many things. But they were too minor to describe our marriage. Among all that we're facing rite now, our marriage is the one area that we feel so abundantly blessed by God.

Of course we had differences, we had strong discussions, sometimes i break down and cry. But there's always reconciliation, and the hurt was never there to stayed.

The word marriage for us associates strongly to the words happy, laughter, peace, content, passion, friendship, trust and respect. Quarrel and dispute just not one of them.

Well, after the long pause, i answered, "We did quarrel but not many, and never lasted longer than a day".

Both the pastor looked at us in disbelief.

I don't care. It is unbelieveably true for both of us. None of us worked hard for our relationship. Even since the beginning, everything went naturally beautiful and effortlessly peaceful. We just there to receive God's abundant grace in our marriage.

Why our marriage works?
The answer is not on both of us.

It's simply by His Grace.